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#CONFIDENCE: Hirsute Sikh teacher Battles the Bullies

Harnaam Kaur Sikh girl with beard

A 23-year-old Sikh woman who was targeted by bullies after suffering a condition that left her with excessive facial hair has decided to grow a full beard and accept her condition.

Harnaam Kaur from Slough, suffers from polycystic ovary syndrome, a genetic disease that causes hormonal imbalance which in turn leads to hirsutism. 

The primary school teacher says she was teased "mercilessly" in school but has grown in confidence and self-esteem after embracing the condition.  She was even baptized as a Sikh meaning she is forbidden to cut her body hair.

“I would never ever go back now and remove my facial hair because it’s the way God made me and I’m happy with the way I am.  I feel more feminine, more sexy and I think I look it too. 

I’ve learned to love myself for who I am nothing can shake me now", she says.

Kaur first began noticing hair on her face, chest and arms when she was 11.  She says she was constantly taunted at school with names such as "beardo", "sheman" and "shemale".

The bullying became so bad Kaur even considered self-harming.

She said: “I can laugh about it now but back then it affected me so badly that I began to self harm because it felt better than all the abuse I was getting.

“I’d talk to people with a hand over my face and I wore baggy, tomboy clothes to cover up the hair on my chest and arms.

“I didn’t want to go outside my house because I couldn’t take the stares from strangers so I’d lock myself in my room.

“It got so bad that I just didn’t want to live any more.”

Kaur was 16 when she became baptised – a decision which proved controversial with her own family.

“My mum and dad didn’t want me to do it – they didn’t think I’d be able to have a normal life if I had a beard,” she explained.

“They worried I wouldn’t be able to get married and that I’d never get a job.

“But I wanted to make my own decisions and live for myself – not anyone else.

“I’d had enough of hiding. I’d had enough of the bullying and the self-harming and the suicidal thoughts.

“I wanted to change my whole outlook on life and I thought I thought it was time to stop locking myself away – I had to do something about it.”

Above: Harnaam with her brother Gurdeep Singh

Baptised Sikhs follow the so-called "5 Ks," or five physical symbols that date back to the creation of the faith by Guru Gobind Singh in 1699, according to the BBC.

Kaur slipped once and shaved off her beard at the age of 17 after pressure from her extended family, but revealed: “All I could do was cry because I didn’t feel like myself without my beard.

“My brother was actually the one person who was completely shocked by what I had done – he hugged me and said I had looked so beautiful with my beard, he didn’t understand why I had done it.”

She said: “I still get shop assistants calling me ‘sir’ and strange looks from people – they see my beard first and realise I’ve actually got breasts too. It must be confusing for a lot of people.

“The funniest reactions I get are from the children at my school. Some ask me what my beard is and I joke it’s a Halloween costume. Some even ask me where I buy it and I just say ‘Asda’.

“I can laugh about it now – sometimes I say I’m a man and I put on a deep voice to scare other people because it’s quite funny to see their reaction.”

In an attempt to help other women find self-confidence, Kaur has shared her story on YouTube and continues to upload videos despite receiving death threats.

She said: “I’ve had people telling me they’re going to burn me and throw a brick at me – all sorts of things like that.

“But I’ve also had a lot of positive messages from women in the same situation as me.

“I’ve also had loads of nice comments from men all over the world. One even asked me to marry him.

“I haven’t found a potential husband yet. I still get some grief from the men in my community and it does still seem to be a barrier to marriage.

“But I’m young and there’s still plenty of time for that.

“All that matters to me at the moment is that I love myself. I love my beard and all my other little quirks – my tattoos, my scars, stretch marks and blemishes.

“I want other women to find the strength that I have.

“If I had any message it would be to live the way you want – it’s your journey and it’s your life.”



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